Friday, January 31, 2014
Communication Evaluation
The communication assignment this week was quite interesting. All of the scores from myself, husband, and two girlfriends were within four to five points of one another. However, the consistencies were not the results that I expected! My verbal aggressiveness scale scored me very high and significant in that with little provocation, I could attack a person verbally which can be hurtful to those listening to me and the test revealed that I often resort to character attacks and ridicule those who do not share my viewpoints. The shocking part of these results were that they came from everyone who took the test including myself. I have always thought of myself as quiet and respectful of others. Yes, I can become defensive when I am attacked, but that is rare. This week I have learned to not be so defensive without listening effectively and I have learned that I have a severe case of communication anxiety. I realize that I need to work on myself more (self-concept) to overcome this fear. I want to do many things in life that will more than likely lead me to speaking in public a lot; therefore, I have to work on building my confidence so that I can be an effective communicator.
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Hi Cheryl,
I am curious to know what strategies you will use to become less aggressive towards others who disagree with you. I too was rated higher than I wanted in the aggressiveness and will be now trying to be a better listener and to always remember that the ideas of a person does not define the whole person and I can't judge them for it.
Julie,
I honestly do not know! I will have to figure out why I become so aggressive in the first place and go from there. I notice that this aggression is mainly when I feel attacked or if I feel that someone is making fun of me...mostly my family members. I have to develop a tougher skin.
Interesting! I scored high in that area as well. I would not intentionally be hurtful towards anyone. It is something to be on the lookout for in communicating. Sometimes aggression can be mistaken for passion. I know the more passionate I am about something,makes the difference in how it is communicated.
I also used family and friends to evaluate me because I knew that they would be honest. I think that although you didn't get the results you expected it gives the opportunity to make changes where you feel they are necessary.
Cheryl,
I too was shocked by the scores of my test, especially with the verbal aggressiveness. However I feel that aggressive may be a strong word. Simply from reading your posts I do not get the impression that you are "aggressive" towards others. Have you reflected on what would make you so verbally aggressive?
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